Coach FEATURE: Meet David Frank Gomes

Originally Posted on The Coaching Tools Company as Coach FEATURE: Meet David Frank Gomes

David Frank Gomes Feature ImageWe continue to meet our fellow coaches - and build our coach community with these articles! This month we meet another of our Guest Authors, David Frank Gomes, from Canada. David is a life and mindfulness coach. Read on...

About David Frank Gomes:

From: Vancouver, BC, Canada.

Business name: David Frank Gomes - Mindfulness & Life Coaching

Describe your coaching business in one sentence: I make change easier for people though a simple and effective process of Mindfulness and Active Coaching.

Meet David:

QUESTION 1: What one book should every coach read - and why?

"A More Beautiful Question" by Warren Berger because it's about the power of enquiry to spark transformation, and it’s my belief that our lives unfold according to the questions we ask ourselves, so it's very helpful to understand how to ask better questions.

And runner up is Lynne Twist's "The Soul of Money", as I feel every coach would benefit from a deeper understanding of the concept of sufficiency.

QUESTION 2: Which website(s) do you visit the most?

QUESTION 3: Whom do you admire most?

Paramahansa Yogananda - one of the greatest teachers of meditation and modern mystics in the 21st century.

He came to the shores of America in 1920, did not know a soul and in 30 years created a worldwide spiritual organization. He was a mystic, poet, writer, builder and a modern yogi, who's mission was to unite east and west through the power of meditation and spiritual unfoldment. He was also a true pioneer, sending his teaching and lessons through the mail, so anyone could study them. This was the precursor to the online world, and something no one was doing back then.

QUESTION 4: What's your vision for your life? Where do you see yourself in 5 years?

Physically, on a Gulf Island (Editor's Note: This would be one of the islands in between Vancouver and Vancouver Island off the West Coast of Canada) or somewhere a little more quiet. I have no idea where I see myself in 5 years, I try only to live in the present moment and take care of that to the best of my ability. I can imagine I will still be doing this very fulfilling work of helping others create transformation and find deeper purpose.

QUESTION 5: What are your Top 3 Goals at the moment?

  1. Building out a Mindfulness course on line.
  2. Several other collaborations with other coaches to bring more of what we do to more people.
  3. A small book I'm writing which I hope will be a culmination of simple wisdom for living along with coaching ideas. Kind of a modern version of the Tao Te Ching. Right now, it's pretty well a jumble of notes!

QUESTION 6: What has been your favourite coaching moment so far?

There have been so many, it's hard to answer this question! I delight in the process with all of my clients, both big and small moments - there's a magic to the process that I love.

But I do remember a particular moment when I had just started coaching and did a perspective shifting technique for the first time. This client had a complete epiphany and make a radical change in her life almost overnight, with an issue she had struggled with for years. To be able to be a part of that moment with her was the first glimpse for me that perhaps, after a life time of looking for something I felt I might be masterful at, I realized I had found something that I loved doing, and that I felt I could be good at, that fulfilled all of the things I had been seeking in my life.

I've also just had so many deep and meaningful conversations with many people over the years, and I feel very fortunate to be a part of people's journey. This is sacred work for me. Often times I don't really know who's giving and who's receiving, I just understand that transformation is taking place.

QUESTION 7: What are your Top 3 favourite coaching tools and/or resources?

  1. Strength Finders
  2. Coach Accountable
  3. THE PUBLIC LIBRARY!

QUESTION 8: What do you love most about being a coach?

Helping others, being an energy in people's lives they can count on to support them in their journey.

QUESTION 9: Tell us a secret about you...

I can cut hair and make films!

And I taught my dog to ring a bell by the door when he wants to do his business!

QUESTION 10: If you could change one thing in our world, what would it be? And how would you go about it?

I'd teach people how to have a better relationship with themselves. If we loved ourselves, we wouldn't start wars, buy things we don't need, over-consume or contribute to other people's unhappiness. I'm going about changing it now; I see coaching and the work I do as improving the world one person at a time.  In the Tao Te Ching says:

Do you want to improve the world?
I don't think it can be done. The world is sacred.
It can't be improved.
If you tamper with it, you'll ruin it.
If you treat it like an object, you'll lose it. There is a time for being ahead,
a time for being behind;
a time for being in motion,
a time for being at rest;
a time for being vigorous,
a time for being exhausted;
a time for being safe,
a time for being in danger.

The Master sees things as they are,
without trying to control them.
She lets them go their own way,
and resides at the center of the circle.

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Sixth ICF Life Vision & Enhancement Community Webinar: Trust the Process! What Really Happens When We Shift From Rescuing to Releasing Responsibility?

Originally Posted on The Coaching Tools Company as Sixth ICF Life Vision & Enhancement Community Webinar: Trust the Process! What Really Happens When We Shift From Rescuing to Releasing Responsibility?

In 2017 the ICF created a brand new Community of Practice (CP) with a focus area of "Life Vision and Enhancement" - for those who do life coaching in their practices. And (I) Emma-Louise Elsey was invited to co-lead this group along with Lynda Monk.

In this post I'm excited to share the details of our sixth live session as co-leader of the ICF Life Vision & Enhancement Community of Practice (CP).

Join us and Jennie Antolak for a practical webinar that helps us trust the coaching process...

Topic: Trust the Process! What Really Happens When We Shift From Rescuing to Releasing Responsibility?

Many of us would deny we ever rescued a client. But when the stakes are high, it's easy to be tempted to step in and expand awareness for them. We think we're simply helping but when we step in, we take away our clients' opportunity to discern what is important, discover their path forward and develop self-efficacy and resiliency. This can keep them playing small in the world.

Join Jennie Antolak and the Life Vision and Enhancement Community Practice as we:

  • Learn simple and profound techniques that all the client to separate from being the subject of their story to be the observer of their story multiplying choices and achievements
  • Learn how coaching decreases stress, increases resilience and self-efficacy
  • Learn how to connect with helping organizations in furthering their mission by providing coaching to their clients

A recording will also be available.

NOTE: There is currently no requirement to be an ICF member to participate in the community. Please note that in the future, some community content may be limited to ICF members only.

Webinar Date & Time

  • DATE: Thursday June 28th, 2018
  • TIME: 9.30am PST/12.30pm EST
  • LENGTH: 60 minutes

Register here (you'll also get the Webinar RECORDING) >>

NOTE: If you're unable to attend the live CP event, register for the webinar to receive the recording.

CCEUS: Core Competency CCEUs will be available for this 60 minute virtual session (likely to be 1 CCEU for live attendance).

About Our Presenter

About Jennie Antolak, MA, MCC:  Jennie believes regret should not be the last thing we feel when we exit this world. As President of Learning Journeys, The International Center of Coaching, she has made a career out of ensuring that many of us do not have to look back on life hoping we would have reflected more, taken bigger risks or lived out our purpose.  Antolak does so by providing one-on-one and group coaching, facilitating coaching certifications, and continually developing tools and resources that move people towards what scares and ignites them. To support her efforts, she has a Bachelor's Degree in Communications, a Master's Degree in Organizational Development, Practitioner, Mastery and Narrative Coaching Certifications and holds the highest level of credentials (MCC) from the International Center of Coaching.

Connect with Jennie on LinkedIn here.

Register here to attend this Webinar (& Get the Recording too) >>

 

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The Skill of Intruding | *AUDIO Podcast* | From Ben Dooley’s Coaching Skills Forum

Originally Posted on The Coaching Tools Company as The Skill of Intruding | *AUDIO Podcast* | From Ben Dooley's Coaching Skills Forum

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This "Coaching Skills Forum" call from Ben Dooley's Archive helps coaches with a valuable skill - that of intruding! Because with some clients we just can't get a question in edgeways! How DO you "intrude" in a coachlike way? What's the difference between intruding and interrupting? What other reasons might there be for a coach to 'intrude' with a client? Listen to find out 🙂

Ben is a Master Certified Coach, mentor coach - and a popular contributor to this blog. He lives to make growing as a coach fun! As an MCC and mentor coach he has helped innumerable coaches improve their skills and get ICF certified. We're big "Ben" fans here at The Coaching Tools Company!

Ben Dooley, "The Skill of Intruding" Podcast Archive

 

Topic: Intruding!

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About "The Coaching Skills Forum"

  • The Coaching Skills Forum is a provocative, challenging, fun, engaging & exciting coach community call that focuses for a whole hour on a single specific coaching skill in great depth and detail.
  • These calls are completely interactive and encourage participation from all coaches attending. Coaches from all levels of experience gather to share wisdom, thoughts, insights and questions.
  • TOP TIP: All calls are approved for ICF CCEUs (if you listen live - $15 per credit) or Resource Development hours (if you're listening to a recording).

Join Ben Dooley LIVE:

  1. Every 4th Wednesday of the month - 12:00pm PST / 3.00pm EST / 8.00pm GMT
    NEXT LIVE CALL: Wednesday May 23rd. COACHING TOPIC: Establishing Boundaries and Breaking the Rules
  2. Every 2nd Tuesday of the month - at 8:00am PST / 11.00am EST / 4.00pm GMT
    NEXT LIVE CALL: Tuesday June 12th. COACHING TOPIC: Ethical Guidelines and Professional Standards

It's THIS EASY: Call: +1 (218) 339-8524   (this is a USA number, please check your calling plan or get a phonecard before dialling in)

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  • Then just show up, listen and participate!

No need to sign up - see the Calendar and Topic for Upcoming Calls here >>
PLEASE NOTE: All times listed on the Calendar are CST (which is EST -1 hr / GMT -6 hrs)

Ben Dooley HeadshotContributor: Ben Dooley, MCC. YOUR coaching confidence and success made easy and fun. "I BElieve that you are an amazing, powerful, and impacting coach! I want to help you connect to that coach and unleash your coaching power and confidence to create your coaching success!" Find out more Ben - awesome mentor coach and so much more - at www.bedo.org or his Facebook Page here. Enjoy. Learn. Grow.

 

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The University of Maryland Executive Coaching Program

The University of Maryland Executive Coaching program is a new program, having only started in 2013. It focuses on the advanced competencies and skills needed to effectively coach executive level leaders in the twenty-first century modern global economy. It is offered through the Robert H. Smith school of Business. The University of Maryland The University […]
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What are the Challenges of Being a Coach? 30 Negative Effects from Research | by Kerryn Griffiths PhD, PCC

Originally Posted on The Coaching Tools Company as What are the Challenges of Being a Coach? 30 Negative Effects from Research | by Kerryn Griffiths PhD, PCC

Editors Foreword: This article is more technical than usual - with academic research included. It also answers the question, "What does this mean for our practice?" and wraps up with 4 practical suggestions. Provided by Kerryn Griffiths, her PhD was on "The Process of Learning in Coaching" and this article is from her archives of "Translating Coaching Research into Coaching Practice".

A significant portion of the coaching research to date has been dedicated to the study of the positive impact of coaching. Decidedly less research has focused on the negative impact of coaching (understandably, that wouldn’t be good for business) and, to my knowledge, there is only one study of negative impacts of being a coach.

This issue of Coaching Research in Practice highlights just that – the negative impact of being a coach. It provides an overview of the frequency and intensity of the negative impact coaches experience as a result of their work and it identifies those issues that coaches find burdensome. Finally, it makes some suggestions for how to avoid and alleviate any burdens that arise.

Coaching Research - The Negative Effects of Coaching

In a quantitative study of German business coaches, Schermuly (2014) examined the frequency and intensity of negative effects coaches experience in both recent coaching engagements as well as across their career. The study began with structured interviews with experienced coaches, together with a literature review, to identify the negative effects coaches experience as a result of their work.

Then, 104 coaches (average demographic of 51.4 years old, with 11.2 years work experience, spending 36.1% of working time on coaching and 56% female) completed a questionnaire asking them to identify the degree to which they experienced particular negative impacts, i) in their last coaching engagement and ii) in their career. Here are the results (p. 173):

  1.  I was disappointed that I could not observe the long-term influences of the coaching. [i) 45.2%, ii) 77.9%]
  2.  I was personally affected by the topics discussed during the coaching. (Those topics discussed had a direct relation to aspects of my own life that I find problematic or have found to be problematic in the past.) [i) 44.2%, ii) 78.8%]
  3.  I was scared that I would not fulfil my role as coach. [i) 40.4%, ii) 71.2%]
  4.  I felt insecure. [i) 38.5%, ii) 80.8%]
  5.  I was frustrated that the problems the coachee was facing could not be resolved. [i) 36.5%, ii) 70.2%]
  6.  I felt underpaid. [i) 36.5%, ii) 69.3%]
  7.  I found it difficult to be an effective communicator (e.g. active listening). [i) 35.6%, ii) 62.5%]
  8.  I felt under pressure as a result of high expectations. [i) 29.8%, ii) 68.3%]
  9.  I was scared to do something wrong. [i) 28.8%, ii) 71.2%]
  10.  I felt emotionally exhausted. [i) 26.9%, ii) 74%]
  11.  I was disappointed that the coaching was ineffective. [i) 23.1%, ii) 68.3%]
  12.  I felt a sense of guilt that I had not done enough for the coachee. [i) 23.1%, ii) 60.6%]
  13.  I experienced anger towards the coachee. [i) 20.2%, ii) 73.1%]
  14.  I felt stressed. [i) 20.2%, ii) 61.59%]
  15.  I felt too much responsibility towards the coachee. [i) 19.2%, ii) 55.8%]
  16.  I found it difficult to maintain personal boundaries with the coachee. [i) 17.32%, ii) 43.3%]
  17.  I felt burdened by the extraordinary topics discussed during the coaching. [i) 15.4%, ii) 48.1%]
  18.  I found it difficult to refrain from thinking about those topics discussed during coaching in my private life. [i) 15.4%, ii) 44.2%]
  19.  As a result of the coaching process I had too little time for myself or my family. [i) 14.4%, ii) 44.2%]
  20.  I felt bored. [i) 12.5%, ii) 59.6%]
  21.  Following the coaching sessions I found it difficult to open up to those important to me. [i) 10.6%, ii) 23.1%]
  22.  I felt over challenged. [i) 10.4%, ii) 64.4%]
  23.  I felt lonely. [i) 7.7%, ii) 21.2%]
  24.  Those services provided were inappropriately or not compensated. [i) 6.7%, ii) 26]
  25.  I felt sexually attracted to the coachee. [i) 6.7%, ii) 19.2%]
  26.  I felt feelings of love towards the coachee. [i) 3.8%, ii) 6.7%]
  27.  The coachee made sexual advances on me. [i) 1.9%, ii) 14.4%]
  28.  The coachee insulted me. [i) 1%, ii) 9.6%]
  29.  The coachee stalked me. [i) 1%, ii) 2.9%]
  30.  The coachee threatened me. [i) 1%, ii) 1.9%]

Thus, negative effects on coaches from their work as coaches "seem to be a regular part of the work as a business coach in Germany. More than 90 per cent of the coaches were confronted with at least one negative effect in the last coaching. Only one participant declared that he/she had never experienced a negative effect in the career… To summarise, negative effects of coaching for coaches occur very often and in a very heterogeneous way but they are of rather low intensity" (p. 178).

The study also highlighted the impact of perceived negative effects in a recent coaching engagement on coaches. This included feeling less empowered, incompetent and decreases in confidence. Finally, the study compared coaches with supervisors (this was deemed a similar role with a similar demographic) and found that "compared to supervisors, coaches experience higher psychological empowerment and less emotional exhaustion and stress" (p. 179).

What does this mean for our Coaching Practices?

Within the paper itself, in addition to highlighting their relevance in coaching, Schermuly identified perhaps the most important application of this research, namely to prompt coaches to "identify negative effects early and [learn] to adequately prevent or handle them" (p. 179). He encourages that special attention be given to the most frequent effects and also emphasized the importance of self-awareness.

For example, "almost half of the coaches were frustrated in their last coaching because they could not observe the long-term consequences of their work" (p. 180). Therefore, with awareness of this as a negative impact, "evaluations at the end of the coaching but also follow up questionnaires or meetings with ex-coachees some month following coaching termination could help coaches experience greater work satisfaction" (p. 180). Similarly, as coaches are frequently personally affected by a topic, "if [you] know '[your] difficult' topics [you] can refuse a coaching or prepare [yourself] better when the difficult topic presents itself" (p. 180).

Reviewing Schermuly's list of negative impacts, I notice that in my career as a coach, there have been only a handful that I have not experienced at least once. It seems therefore that negative impacts of being a coach, while typically low in intensity, are fairly probable. Knowing that other coaches experience such negative impacts is helpful in relieving feelings of inadequacy as a result of these experiences. In addition, as I reflect on ReciproCoach supervision sessions over the years, I see the majority of these topics arise fairly frequently. That said, it takes courage to show up to a supervision session and admit, for example, that you felt bored with a client’s sessions or that you were scared about doing something wrong. Thus, this research may serve as support for coaches to come forward in supervision to address similar experiences.

The suggestions I offer for coaches to practice from this research are to:

  1. Allow enough space after sessions to notice if you’re feeling any negative impacts.
  2. Don't be hard on yourself - remember you're not the only one!
  3. Have the courage to share the experience within a supervision group or with another trusted colleague. Remember, they've probably experienced it too, or are likely to experience it in the future.
  4. Create a strategy for addressing it, with the support of your colleagues, and from a place of professional self-compassion.

Reference: Schermuly, C. (2014). Negative effects of coaching for coaches: An explorative study. International Coaching Psychology Review, 9(2), 167-182.

kerryn_green_sml_adjContributing Author: Kerryn Griffiths, PhD (coaching and learning), is the founder and global coordinator of ReciproCoach, an international community of professional coaches for fun and affordable reciprocal peer coaching, mentoring and supervision. Join over 1000 like-minded coaches at ReciproCoach.com with the coupon code: CoachingToolsCo and not only will you be on your way to affordable ongoing coaching, mentoring and supervision, but you'll also receive a year's subscription to your choice of one of the ReciproCoach Business resources ($25 value).

ReciproCoach provides the service of reciprocal peer coaching, mentoring and supervision for coaches and is a very affordable way to have your own coach, mentor and grow your coaching skills and business.

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